I want to live in a world where straight boys aren’t afraid to cry

The 21st century media stereotype of “masculinity” is seriously fucked. Society instantly places us into a category; “male” and “female”, “masculine” and “feminine”, and thereby we must abide to those categories rules otherwise we are considered to be some sort of abhorrent subspecies who doesn’t follow the rules of what is right or wrong depending on our biological sex.

WORDS COMMONLY USED TO DESCRIBE FEMININITY:

  • Dependant 
  • Emotional
  • Passive
  • Sensitive
  • Quiet
  • Graceful
  • Innocent
  • Weak
  • Sexually Submissive

WORDS COMMONLY USED TO DESCRIBE MASCULINITY:

  • Independent
  • Emotionless
  • Aggressive
  • Tough-skinned
  • Competitive
  • Experienced
  • Strong
  • Active
  • Self-Confident
  • Sexually dominant

Can the masculine/feminine stereotype please be broken? Somehow? I know these things have been around since the dawn of time but I feel they’re becoming less and less relevant – especially with trans and androgynous acceptance being seen more than ever before.

Let me draw your attention to one particular ‘rule’ above which, when thought of in a different context, turns my stomach; the “sexually dominant/submissive” stereotype. There are some human beings in this world who assume that being masculine (“dominant”) would mean they’re entitled to act violently, disrespectfully, aggressively, etc, towards the feminine (“submissive”) – that includes domestic abuse, rape, domestic rape, sexually objectifying, harassment, or just plain disrespectful behaviour towards others in general. 

THIS IS NOT OKAY.

RAPING SOMEONE DOES NOT MAKE YOU “MASCULINE”. PUNCHING A GIRL IN THE FACE DOES NOT MAKE YOU A MAN. SHOUTING HUMILIATING AND DISRESPECTFUL SLURS TO A WOMAN IN THE STREET DOES NOT MEAN YOU AREN’T A PIECE OF SHIT.

More than anything I wish for a culture where violence, sexual violence, disrespect, harassment, and humiliating others is seen as the furthest thing from “masculine” behaviour.

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